Living inside a loop of despair
We might often see and think that a couple who look happily ever after are most probably the ones who are euphorically living together. However, that is not the reality!
Living in an abusive relationship is not easy. It is like living inside a loop of despair and darkness, coming out from what almost feels like a downfall of one’s self and beliefs.
A person might question “why it is happening to me?” or “why he just does not leave?” However, the victim is always aware that it is not that simple. It is never easy to end a significant relationship. It’s even more difficult when you’ve been isolated from family and friends—psychologically abused, financially manipulated, and physically threatened.
You may be confused, uncertain, scared, and torn if you’re trying to decide whether to stay or leave. Perhaps you are still hoping that your situation will improve. Or you are concerned about how your partner will react if he discovers that you are attempting to leave. You even blame yourself for the abuse or feel weak and embarrassed for sticking around.
Don’t let confusion, guilt, or self-blame hold you back. You should only be concerned about your safety and peace of mind. Perhaps, it might not be so easy and convincing, but it is far better than living in a toxic and abusive relationship!
Here are some possible ways you can try to part yourself from living in a baseless relationship:
Realise you are being abused
The first step toward change is to realise that you are being manipulated. There is no shame in telling yourself and others how your partner behaves with you; you should never forget that your safety and life have the utmost importance and that you can make it to a better future. So do not make it up for count and keep allowing yourself to abuse by a narcissist.
Practice self-care
In toxic relationships, there is no interchange. Narcissists are unconcerned about their victims’ needs or feelings, and everything revolves around them. Therefore, you must take care of yourself through self-care practises such as mindfulness, optimistic affirmations, exercise, and positive social interactions. Remember that setting limitations are also one of the most effective ways to detach yourself from a toxic relationship.
Seek support
A toxic relationship with a narcissist can last for many years. Seek support if you’re having trouble coping with your emotions. You can read Hugger Mugger: The Con Man Smile, Part 2, and Maze Aflame: Flimflam Man, Part 2, an insightful fictional yet realistic series on psychopathic, sociopathic behaviour, and antisocial personality disorder, or visit https://ml-stark.com/ or follow her on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/maryliz.stark to get experienced aid while coping with a hard time.
Final and foremost, do not believe the abuser
It is usually effortless and captivating for an abuser to convince a partner to stay. They will showcase pure fake sentiments and try to convince you as much as they can just to abuse you more. Remember that you have now made a better decision to move forward and shape your life according to your way- and going back towards the abuser will make the situation and moving forward even more worst.
