The changes in her personality

Greetings, and welcome to today’s Author News 2 February 2021

What was the biggest thing I changed about myself after being in a relationship with him? And what was the biggest thing I changed after I realised all the RED flags I had overruled?

I don’t care what he or others think about me. If they like me as I am, well, that’s great! If not, I don’t care.

When I at first meet others I am now very careful and don’t believe in what anyone tells me. I sit back and look for them to show me integrity. When I met my boyfriend; he left his previous girlfriend only to be with me.

Make the sun jealous

He claimed to love me within a week and spoke about marriage shortly after he met me. Quickly he made me an offer of marriage; I am still married! Christ, what was he thinking?

He wanted to move in with me within a matter of few weeks, but everything was a lie, and I didn’t see the RED FLAGS.

I don’t compromise anymore to get acceptance or love from another person. He asked me a lot of personal questions and later he used them against me.

He called me his soulmate; I was his destiny, and God had created us for each other. It was all a lie and full of dozens of RED FLAGS I overruled.

I can now sniff out narcs quickly. Backtracking my life with him turns up-side-down my stomach.

Unexpectedly, he told me things about his troubled life which he never had told anyone before. Well, how interesting those stories were. Surprisingly, I received it all in a 15 pages word document, popping into my mailbox, just to rectify himself.

Reading it, I didn’t see the many RED FLAGS, yet it was all written in black & white. In my infatuation with him, once again I overruled all the RED FLAGS!

I no longer avoid situations in my life. I confront them and let the chips fall where they may.

He told me that my to-be-ex was a deranged stalker on drugs.

Pimp! – Fraud! – Thief! – Liar!

A psychopath that used me and sold my body to other men.

A massive RED FLAG, and I shouldn’t have trusted my boyfriend’s lies. Deep down in my soul, I knew my husband was not like that. Multiply RED FLAGS! 

Was my new boyfriend portraying himself?

I now hold myself back to please others.
  • My new boyfriend wanted to spend every minute of the day with me, and I thought it was the ultimate of happiness.
  • He manipulated me sexually and said it was the best sex he has had in forever. No one could please him as I could.
  • It was all a massive lie! And I overruled the many RED FLAGS by trusting him.
I no longer must prove myself to anyone.

I deal with my feelings healthily and value those I care about more.

I don’t volunteer to help people as much anymore.

It was always fine for my boyfriend, with me picking up the bills. Paying for his entire lifestyle. RED FLAG, and why didn’t I see it was wrong?

I live my life on my own terms. Therefore, I am no longer full of upset stomach feelings with his extreme highs and lows.

I feared him, but life is on a perfect path now. I am free of my abuse boyfriend. Finally, I have learned what true love and life are. And it’s not with him, because it is not stable nor beautiful. Now I see all the RED FLAGS that I have overruled.


Author: M. L. Stark

My name is M. L. Stark, and I wrote the “Burning Desire - The Psychopath and the Girl in Black Prada Shoes” series based on experiences from my personal life. BURNING DESIRE, and BURNING DESIRE FADES knowing I’ve achieved the impossible; to write books about being a victim who survived the cruelty of abuse. Ending with one of Bob Marley’s quote: “The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love without the intention of loving her.” You can follow me on Facebook or Twitter.

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